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As an unpaid carer you really matter so on this page you will find some helpful advice to take care of yourself

You matter, too.

Caring for someone who is distressed or at risk of suicide can take a toll on your own emotional and physical wellbeing.

You need enough sleep, food, rest and support to stay well.

If you don’t look after your own health, it will become harder to care for someone else.

Taking care of yourself is not a luxury, it is necessary and will help you to be the best carer you can be. 

What is burnout?

Burnout is when your body and mind become exhausted from long periods of stress, pressure, or emotional strain. It can creep up gradually, especially when you are focused on someone else’s needs.

It's important to tune into your own body and emotions. 

Burnout doesn’t mean you’re weak, it means you’ve been strong for the people around you and it’s catching up with you.

You deserve rest, kindness and care, too. 

Take care of yourself

Doing things to take care of your body and mind, even if those things are simple and small, can ease some of the pain you are feeling.

This guide from Mobilise is helpful for looking after yourself when it feels like there is no time.

Mental health charity Mind also has a guide for unpaid carers, which you may find useful.

And below, you'll find a podcast episode, also from Mind, which introduces Bryony's experience as a carer.

It can help to check in with yourself each day

Have I eaten today? 

Did I get fresh air? 

Have I spoken to someone I trust? 

How am I feeling right now? 

Small changes could make a big difference

If you can, try to plan and set small, achievable goals that will help you to look after your own wellbeing. Small changes could make a big difference

  • Take a walk - even a few minutes outside can help you reset and breathe

  • Take a break – even when it feels like you don’t have time - Rest isn’t selfish; it helps you keep going

  • Do something you enjoy - spend time on a hobby, a show, or something that feels like “you”

  • Eat or drink without distraction - have a cup of tea or your meal without your phone or multitasking

  • Change a plan if you need to - it’s okay to reschedule or say no when you need rest